"Having a daughter does not make a decent man. Having a wife does not make a decent man. Treating people with dignity and respect makes a decent man." Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez Shortly before she died I was graced to be able to unconditionally apologise to my wife and soulmate for all the words I had said … Continue reading What does it mean to be a decent man?
A natural, unforced confidence is the essential ingredient in all healthy relationships and all inner and outer achievement. In life few things are certain but one thing I do know for sure that you can tap into the source of natural self-confidence. When you do, you'll gain the ability to act and speak without knowing … Continue reading Feel the feeling of confidence
Some people believe, and even teach, that "we cannot recover from grief but can only learn to live with it". This, in my experience and others I know, is utterly untrue. And a gross disservice to anyone struggling to come to terms with, and heal from, the grief that naturally arises from the death … Continue reading End the Suffering of Grief
All negative emotions arise from a prior thought whose origins lay somewhere back in our past. But trying to "think our way out" of these powerful emotions never works. So instead of thinking, one of the most effective, albeit paradoxical, ways to release these feelings is to feel the feelings fully and completely. This … Continue reading Feel the Freedom of Emotional Intimacy
There are a number of principles, and a fundamental paradigm shift, that set the Assume the Change meditation apart from other manifestation processes. As far as I know it is unique. So, because the process is so different, I've written this Silent Wisdom post to give you a context for listening to the guided Assume … Continue reading Create Your Life from Love
Our ability to listen deeply to what other people say, and don't say, is incredibly important. The skill enables us to enjoy quality personal and professional relationships. And ... there is more we can listen to. I was walking in the forest close to my home when I stopped to listen deeply to the … Continue reading The Power of Silence
A mindful healing conversation is a two-way relationship in which both people listen and, when appropriate, ask questions. A key difference between a healing conversation and an ordinary conversation is that we value our subjective intuitive insights, not only objective intellectual analysis. After all, the reality is that if all that was required to resolve your personal or professional problem was intellectual analysis, you would most likely have discovered and implemented that solution long ago ... Click the headline above to read the full article.
The way I see life is that we humans are rather like fish who live in an ocean. When the they are swimming around in the ocean, they probably don't think too much about it, it's just so obvious to them. Similarly, we have our existence in an ocean of consciousness whose very nature is … Continue reading Heartful self-compassion
How can a relationship weather the storms, even hurricanes, of conditioned thoughts and emotions that inevitably arise when two people come together in intimacy? The answer in my experience is unconditional Conscious Love. Nothing else has the power to take us through the emotional storms to the peace, joy and freedom that await us just … Continue reading A Great Love
When we're talking about soul, what do we actually mean by "soul"? To me, soul is consciousness, awareness, being, who we are, literally who we are in the truth and reality of the "IS-ness" of spiritual consciousness that is prior to and yet includes our human embodiment. This soul consciousness is timeless, formless, spaceless – … Continue reading What is a “Soulmate”?
My guess is there are a number of women in this world who would raise an eyebrow or two at the thought of me having the audacity to write about intimate relationships. But, as Chuck Spezzano once said, "Our greatest challenge is our greatest gift". So it was that, after a lifetime of often painful … Continue reading Who am I to Write about Relationships?